Sometimes when you're left to your own devices and you're wondering to yourself "how to save my marriage?", you give out knee jerk reactions due to your emotions clouding your line of thought. To further take control of the situation and retain your marriage, start to acknowledge the fact that your emotions cloud your mind. Stop all the emotions and simply start to seek advice from someone else than yourself. Right now, you need to stay on top of your emotions, gain control right now.